First things first, YOU ARE A BADASS. But unfortunately, even badasses struggle with doubt and lack of confidence.
In fact, if you are anything like me, you’ve probably found yourself questioning the attainability of your goals, or your potential to accomplish them.
From witty commentary to the harsh truth, Jen Sincero’s “You Are a Badass,” is filled with tips to help you turn your life around.
Here are some of my favorite takeaways:
1. Being positive is important
To achieve your goals, it’s essential to have the right mindset. No one achieves success by doubting their capabilities. Instead, be positive. Realize that what you put out into the world, is the same thing that you will get in return.
“If you want to live a life you’ve never lived, you have to do things you’ve never done.” – Jen Sincero
When dealing with failure, dust yourself off and get back up.
Because guess what?
If you’re not looking out for yourself, no one else is going to. So stop questioning your every move. Ask for what you want, and keep moving forward.
2. It’s okay to prove yourself wrong
People are often more concerned about being right than they are about turning their life around.
For example, someone who says “I am always broke,” will do everything they can for that statement to hold true.
Unconsciously, this person wants to be right, more than they want to resolve their money problems. So what happens the minute they come into some extra cash? They spend it!
Don’t be this person. Instead, prove yourself wrong!
Start with small steps, then work your way from there. For example, in this case, you could start by setting aside a little bit of money each time you get paid.
“You need to go from wanting to change your life to deciding to change your life.” – Jen Sincero
It’s also equally as important to shift your mindset.
Saying things like “I am always broke,” can cause the pattern to repeat itself. So instead, say things like “I am getting better at handling money.”
Something as simple as rephrasing our words can help tremendously in the accomplishment of our goals.
(Note: Sheryl Sandberg also discusses this issue in her book Lean In for Graduates.”)
3. Having money is okay
People have a lot of problems when it comes to money.
Those who have it usually avoid the subject (or they downplay how much they make) because they don’t want people to think they’re showing off. On the other hand, those that don’t have it automatically assume that those that do are superficial or selfish.
But having money, or admitting that you want to make more money does not make you shallow or a bad person.
“Most people are living in an illusion based on someone else’s beliefs.” – Jen Sincero
Money is only an object and whether we like it or not it’s something that we all need in order to live.
So don’t ever feel guilty for making money or for charging people for your work. Value what you do, and let your salary reflect it. There’s no shame in being compensated for your hard work.
4. Start Living for Yourself
My biggest takeaway from this book was to stop making decisions based on other people. Don’t let anyone influence what you do and when making big decisions ask yourself why you are leaning one way versus another.
Make sure that whatever you decide, was REALLY your decision.
More importantly, never let anyone call you selfish for chasing your dreams. And never allow the fear of selfishness, influence what you do.