Change Can Be Terrifying

We often become so accustomed to our little routines that the moment change begins to poke its head through the window, we immediately close the blinds.

Fear of change is not uncommon, and it’s certainly nothing one should be ashamed of. But it’s important to know that without change there is no growth.

Recently, my husband accepted a new job position that will require quite a bit of change. At first, when the opportunity presented itself, we resisted. We told ourselves that our resistance was justified, that the job he had was fine and that there was no reason to change something that wasn’t exactly broken.

Sound familiar?

We do this all too often.

We don’t apply for the new job with better salary because we’re comfortable right where we are, we don’t engage with different people because we like our group of friends, we don’t seek out new opportunities because we’re afraid of the unknown.

But what can be more frightening than not changing at all?

All change, whether it be good or bad, presents an opportunity.

Is it ok to be afraid? Yes.

Should you embrace it anyway? Definitely!

If all else fails and you don’t like where change has taken you, you can always venture onto something else. But if you keep yourself from trying, who’s to say that what’s out there, isn’t the opportunity you’ve always wanted.

Where Do You See Yourself 5 years From Now?

Where do you see yourself five years from now? A daunting question that no one likes thinking about.

I must have been 17 years old when someone first asked me this. At the time, I answered like any other teenager “having my own car, my own place, my own money.” And while those answers may have been okay back then, as an adult that simply doesn’t cut it.

Luckily, I’m a lot less intimidated by this question than I used to be. And while I don’t exactly have it all figured out, I have a much better understanding about where I want to be 5, 10 or even 15 years from now.

I’ve often had people tell me that they like living in the moment, and in a way I guess it makes sense.

It’s certainly a lot easier and quite frankly more rewarding (at least for the time being), to just focus on the present. So why even bother thinking about the future?

While I’m not opposed to the idea of being spontaneous and taking time off to do the things that make you happy, this shouldn’t be your only focus.

The only thing worst than not having a plan or an idea about where you want to go, or what you want to do, is not thinking about it at all. It’s that “it is what it is” attitude that disconcerts me.

Because let’s face it, in reality it’s not what it is, it’s what you make of it.

You need to have a Plan A, a Plan B and sometimes even a Plan C.

And while it’s true that planning doesn’t guarantee success, it certainly does help keep your priorities in check.

Don’t be afraid to ask yourself where do you want to be x years from now. Don’t be afraid to dream big, and dream often.

Logically, there will be bumps along the road, and if you want to get really metaphorical… there will be rainstorms, road blocks and maybe even a few dead ends.

But that does not mean you give up.

There’s always a back road. As long as you know your destination, you’re never truly lost.